In If It Hurts‎,‎ It Isn‎'‎t Love‎,‎ author Chuck Spezzano finds truth in simple insights‎:‎ What I think I need is what I am called to give‎.‎ Depression is the fear that something new will leave me‎.‎ When someone gets angry at me‎,‎ there is a lesson for me to learn‎.‎ Jealousy is a birthing place‎.‎ These principles show how to look afresh at one‎'‎s most important relationships‎,‎ in a way that heals pain and brings love and forgiveness‎.‎ After each principle‎,‎ the author gives brief exercises that nudge readers further‎,‎ prompting them to absorb the insights even more deeply‎.‎